HERstory | Adaeze Okoye - University of Charleston

Adaeze Okoye is a sophomore majoring in history/politics. She is also a member of the UC track team.

At one point people all around the world have said their mom is their hero. So of course, it is cliche to say the same, but she is.

Yet, I did not always think this. I used to see my mom as my supreme dictator, who told me when to clean, when to sleep, or what to eat. But she was the same person who carried me out of bed every morning and made sure I ate before going to school. I never took the time to understand her. How hard it was for her to wake up four kids, get them ready and drop them off before rushing to work. All I saw was someone who nagged, yelled, and disturbed my peace when she returned home. I overlooked the difficult transition she made coming to America, with no family. Or the obstacles she faced as an immigrant and a black woman in the workforce.

At such a young age, I did not realize that I was absorbing her very actions and characteristics, and those actions would soon become mine. I keep plastic grocery bags in the corner of my closet to reuse as she keeps them in the cabinet at home. I use the same type of gas I saw her pump in the car after she picked me up from school. I buy the same toothpaste she buys at home. And when I get older, I will probably have a second freezer in my basement. There are even times that I think that my relationships replicate hers.

I appreciate and understand my mom a lot more now, but there is still a lot that I do not understand. I hope with time I will see the full picture of her willingness, sacrifice, love, and care. She is a blessing in my life, and I am glad to see it.

All in all, I would not be myself without the vital principles my mom instilled in me. Her actions taught me to be determined, humble, and strong. Her faith helped me navigate my relationship with God. Her love and care brought me from many rainy days and tears. Through this Herstory, I want to celebrate my mom, her efforts, and her sacrifices. And to the moms everywhere, thank you is not enough for all you do.